Bryton James talks for the first time about why he left Y&R – what we suspect is true
From On-Screen Drama to Off-Screen Truth: Bryton James on Love, Marriage, and Finding His Own Path
For fans of The Young and the Restless, Bryton James is the charismatic and often conflicted billionaire Devon Hamilton.
But behind the camera, the actor’s journey through love and life has been a compelling story of its own. In a recent, refreshingly candid interview, James opened up about his past, his personal growth, and why traditional milestones like marriage and fatherhood are not part of his future—a decision rooted in a difficult but transformative chapter of his life.
James’s most significant real-life romantic storyline was with his ex-wife, Ashley Leisinger. Theirs was a love story that began in their youth; James was just 17 when they met. The relationship faced early hurdles, including parental disapproval, which led to an initial separation.
However, fate brought them back together years later as more mature individuals, seemingly ready to build a lasting future. Their reunion culminated in a 2011 wedding, an intimate ceremony officiated by James’s Y&R co-star and friend, Christian LeBlanc. For a moment, it seemed like a perfect Hollywood ending.
But as is often the case, the reality was far more complex. Despite their deep care for one another, the marriage lasted only three years. James has reflected that while love was present, fundamental compatibility was not.
As they grew individually, they also grew apart, leading to the heartbreaking realization that their union was a mistake. The divorce was a painful but necessary step.
This experience profoundly shaped James’s perspective on commitment. Speaking with fellow soap star Maurice Benard on his YouTube series State of Mind, James revealed that he will likely never marry again.
He explained that the divorce led him to re-evaluate the institution of marriage itself—its history, its purpose, and its place in his own life. “I don’t see marriage as something I’m interested in anymore,” he admitted, echoing a sentiment felt by many who have gone through a divorce.
His candidness didn’t stop there. James also shared that he has long known fatherhood isn’t his calling. He thoughtfully distinguished his own feelings from what he sees in others, stating, “I know a lot of men… it’s just in them. They just know [they want children].” For him, that innate drive simply isn’t present.
In a world that often pressures individuals to follow a traditional path of marriage and family, James’s honesty is a powerful statement of self-acceptance. His story is not one of bitterness or regret, but of resilience. He and Leisinger have admirably remained friends, a testament to the respect that survived their romantic partnership.
By choosing a path free from societal expectations, Bryton James demonstrates that fulfillment comes from living authentically. His journey reminds us that the most important relationship we have is with ourselves, and true happiness is found in honoring that truth.
